From thumb-sucking to tantrums, the early years of a child’s life are filled with behaviors that can leave parents wondering, “Is this normal?” Infants and toddlers develop rapidly—physically, emotionally, and socially. While many behaviors in this stage are part of typical development, it’s natural for parents to seek reassurance and clarity. In this post, we’ll look at some common behaviors in young children, explain what they often mean, and guide you on when to consider professional support.
Common Behaviors in Infants and Toddlers
1. Thumb-Sucking
Thumb-sucking is one of the most common self-soothing behaviors in babies and toddlers. It typically starts in infancy and may continue through the toddler years.
Why it happens: It’s a natural reflex that helps babies feel secure and calm. It often appears during sleepy times, stress, or transitions.
When it’s normal: Most children stop thumb-sucking on their own between ages 2–4.
When to be concerned: If it continues past age 4 or affects teeth alignment, consider gentle interventions or consulting a pediatric dentist.
2. Tiptoe Walking
Many toddlers experiment with walking on their tiptoes as they learn to walk and explore their bodies.
Why it happens: Tiptoe walking can be part of normal motor development or sensory exploration.
When it’s normal: Occasional tiptoe walking under age 3, especially if your child also walks flat-footed at times.
When to be concerned: Persistent tiptoe walking beyond age 2–3, especially if your child never walks flat-footed, may warrant evaluation for muscle tightness or neurological conditions like autism spectrum disorder.
3. Biting
Biting in toddlers is often upsetting for parents and caregivers, but it’s a surprisingly common phase.
Why it happens: Young children bite for many reasons—frustration, teething pain, sensory stimulation, or limited communication skills.
When it’s normal: Occasional biting, especially in group settings or during emotional moments.
When to be concerned: Frequent, aggressive biting, particularly if it continues after age 3 or occurs outside of high-stress situations, may need closer attention.
4. Tantrums
Meltdowns and tantrums are a normal expression of a toddler’s growing desire for independence—and their frustration when things don’t go their way.
Why it happens: Toddlers lack the language and emotional regulation to handle big feelings.
When it’s normal: Tantrums are common between 18 months and 3 years, peaking around age 2.
When to be concerned: If tantrums are intense, prolonged (20+ minutes), or include self-harming behaviors, consider speaking with a child development specialist.
5. Separation Anxiety
Crying when a parent leaves the room or resisting daycare drop-off is a common part of early childhood.
Why it happens: Babies begin to understand object permanence, realizing caregivers still exist when out of sight—but not yet feeling secure about their return.
When it’s normal: Peaks between 9–18 months and usually eases by age 3.
When to be concerned: If anxiety severely disrupts daily routines or continues into the preschool years without improvement, counseling support can help.
Developmental Milestones to Watch
Each child develops at their own pace, but there are general milestones to be aware of in early childhood:
By 12 months: Babbling, crawling, standing with support, social smiles.
By 18 months: Walking independently, using simple words, pointing to objects.
By 24 months: Stringing two words together, following simple directions, imitating behaviors.
By 36 months: Speaking in short sentences, playing with peers, showing affection and curiosity.
Missing multiple milestones in language, motor skills, or social interaction could suggest a developmental delay.
When to Seek Help
You don’t need to wait for a crisis to reach out. Professional guidance can offer reassurance, clarity, and tools for parenting through difficult stages.
You may want to consult a counselor or pediatric specialist if:
Your child exhibits repetitive behaviors that interfere with daily functioning.
There are concerns about speech, social interaction, or motor development.
You’re feeling overwhelmed, unsure how to respond to certain behaviors, or struggling to create calm routines.
At Harvest Counseling and Wellness, our trained therapists offer gentle, developmentally appropriate support for families navigating the toddler years. We help parents understand their child’s behavior through a developmental lens and offer strategies to foster healthy growth.
Final Thoughts
The infant and toddler years are full of mystery, joy, and challenge. Many of the behaviors that raise concerns for parents are completely typical—and part of the journey of growing up. By staying informed and tuned in, you can confidently support your child’s development, and when needed, seek help early to get back on track.
If you have questions about your child’s behavior or development, our team in Argyle, TX, is here to support you.Reach out to schedule a consultation and learn how we can help your family thrive.
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