The preschool years are a time of remarkable growth. As children develop language, imagination, and a stronger sense of independence, parents often encounter new and sometimes puzzling behaviors. From fibbing during play to testing every boundary, it can be difficult to distinguish what’s a normal part of development and what might need closer attention.
This post explores common behaviors in preschoolers, when they’re typical, and when it may be helpful to seek professional support.
Common Behaviors in Preschoolers
1. Imaginative Play vs. Lying
Preschoolers often tell tall tales, which can be alarming if mistaken for deliberate dishonesty.
Why it happens: Around age 3–4, children’s imaginations become vivid. Pretend play, fantasy stories, and even saying “I didn’t do it” may reflect creativity rather than deception.
When it’s normal: Occasional storytelling that blurs reality is typical at this age.
When to be concerned: Persistent lying with clear intent to manipulate, especially when accompanied by defiance or avoidance, may warrant further attention.
2. Aggression and Testing Limits
Pushing, hitting, or screaming are common reactions as children learn to regulate emotions and test authority.
Why it happens: Preschoolers are beginning to understand rules but still lack emotional regulation and impulse control.
When it’s normal: Occasional aggressive episodes during transitions, fatigue, or frustration.
When to be concerned: If aggression is frequent, intense, or directed at animals or peers, or if your child seems unusually angry or withdrawn, an evaluation may help.
3. Toilet Regression
Even fully toilet-trained preschoolers may suddenly begin having accidents again.
Why it happens: Stress, big changes (a new sibling, starting preschool), or illness can trigger regression.
When it’s normal: Occasional accidents during times of stress or distraction.
When to be concerned: If accidents persist for weeks without clear cause or your child resists using the toilet entirely, it may indicate emotional distress or developmental concerns.
4. Speech Delays or Quirks
Preschoolers’ language skills vary widely. Some children speak in full sentences by age 3, while others take longer.
When it’s normal: Minor pronunciation issues or occasional word mixing as vocabulary expands.
When to be concerned: If your child is difficult to understand most of the time, speaks in very short phrases by age 4, or struggles to engage in back-and-forth conversation, consider a speech or developmental evaluation.
Key Milestones in Preschool Development
By ages 3 to 5, children are rapidly growing in several areas. Milestones to watch include:
Language: Telling stories, asking questions, using complete sentences
Cognitive: Counting, identifying colors/shapes, problem-solving during play
Emotional: Expressing a range of feelings, showing empathy, managing frustration with support
Social: Playing cooperatively, taking turns, making friends
It’s important to remember that all children develop at different rates, and some variability is expected.
When to Seek Help
You know your child best. If something feels “off” or concerning, it’s always okay to seek support. Early intervention can reduce future challenges and equip your family with tools that foster healthy development.
You might consider professional support if your preschooler:
Has persistent trouble with emotional regulation or behavior
Shows delays in speech, play, or motor coordination
Withdraws from peers or avoids social interaction
Has consistent trouble following directions or routines
Displays signs of anxiety, including excessive fear, clinginess, or avoidance
How Counseling Can Help
At Harvest Counseling and Wellness, we offer child therapy and parent support tailored to the preschool stage. Our counselors use age-appropriate techniques like play therapy and social-emotional coaching to help children learn healthy behaviors, build confidence, and manage big emotions.
We also work closely with parents to equip you with strategies that support your child’s development at home and in school.
Final Thoughts
The preschool years are both exciting and challenging. Your child is forming a sense of self, learning how the world works, and figuring out how to relate to others. Many of the behaviors that seem frustrating or confusing are simply growing pains but if concerns persist, help is available.
If you’re unsure whether your preschooler’s behavior is typical or if you’re struggling to respond effectively, our team in Argyle, TX, is here to support you. Schedule a consultation and take the next step toward peace of mind and healthy development.
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Harvest Counseling & Wellness is a Mental Health Counseling & Wellness Practice in Argyle, Texas. Our team includes several licensed therapists who specialize in child, teen and adolescent therapy. We provide support and counseling for children, preteens, teens, and families struggling with issues related to eating disorders, disordered eating, anxiety, depression, self-harm, school related issues, divorce and separation issues, and more. Our office is located near Denton, Highland Village, Flower Mound, Lantana, Roanoke, and Justin. If you are looking for a child, teen and adolescent therapist in Denton or surrounding areas, contact us today for a complimentary phone consultation, 940-294-7061.
