By early elementary school, children are making big leaps in learning, emotional regulation, and independence. As they adjust to classroom routines, make friends, and build confidence, their behavior reflects both their progress and the challenges they face.
Parents at this stage may wonder whether frequent outbursts, trouble following rules, or social difficulties are just part of growing up—or signs of something deeper. This post explores common behaviors in children ages 6 to 8, what’s typical, and when to consider reaching out for support.
Common Behaviors in Early Elementary Children
1. School Refusal or Anxiety
Some children who once loved school may suddenly resist going—or show signs of anxiety each morning.
Why it happens: As academic and social expectations rise, children may feel overwhelmed, especially if they struggle with transitions, attention, or friendships.
When it’s normal: Mild hesitation during new routines, changes in classroom settings, or after a break.
When to be concerned: Frequent stomachaches, meltdowns before school, or consistent refusal to attend may signal anxiety, bullying, or learning struggles that require attention.
2. Difficulty with Friendships
Social dynamics grow more complex between ages 6 and 8, and some children may struggle to connect or navigate peer relationships.
Why it happens: Children are learning about fairness, cooperation, and empathy—but those skills are still developing.
When it’s normal: Occasional arguments, jealousy, or choosing only one or two friends.
When to be concerned: If your child is consistently excluded, avoids group play, or shows signs of loneliness, withdrawal, or emotional distress, early intervention can help build social confidence.
3. Emotional Outbursts
Despite growing maturity, some children continue to experience strong emotional reactions to frustration or change.
Why it happens: Emotional regulation is still developing, and children may not yet have the tools to cope with disappointment or overstimulation.
When it’s normal: Occasional tears or yelling during stressful moments.
When to be concerned: Frequent meltdowns, explosive reactions to small frustrations, or aggressive behaviors that disrupt school or family life.
4. Not Following Rules or Routines
Some children resist structure or have trouble remembering instructions, even when they understand what’s expected.
Why it happens: Attention challenges, developmental immaturity, or anxiety can all affect executive functioning.
When it’s normal: Occasional forgetfulness or testing limits.
When to be concerned: Persistent impulsivity, defiance, or disorganization—especially when it interferes with learning or relationships—may indicate ADHD, sensory processing issues, or other challenges that can benefit from support.
Key Developmental Milestones (6–8 Years)
Children in this stage are expanding their cognitive, emotional, and social skills. Typical developmental milestones include:
Cognitive: Reading and writing, understanding cause and effect, telling time, solving basic problems
Social: Forming deeper friendships, working in teams, showing empathy and fairness
Emotional: Expressing feelings with words, showing pride in accomplishments, handling small failures
Behavioral: Following multi-step directions, completing tasks, managing transitions with some support
Variations are normal, but falling significantly behind in multiple areas may be a reason to seek an evaluation.
When to Seek Help
Some behavioral challenges are simply part of learning and growth. But when issues persist or escalate, professional guidance can provide clarity and support.
You may consider reaching out if your child:
Struggles consistently with emotional regulation or impulse control
Has difficulty making or keeping friends
Avoids school or shows frequent anxiety about academic performance
Displays ongoing defiance or rule-breaking
Appears unusually withdrawn, sad, or overwhelmed
How Counseling Can Help
At Harvest Counseling and Wellness, we work with children and families to support healthy emotional and behavioral development. Using age-appropriate therapies, including play-based interventions and cognitive-behavioral techniques, we help children build emotional resilience, social skills, and coping strategies.
We also provide parent guidance so you can better understand your child’s needs, reinforce healthy behavior at home, and partner effectively with teachers and caregivers.
Final Thoughts
The early elementary years are a time of tremendous growth—but also stress as children face new demands, both socially and academically. If your child is having a tough time, you don’t have to navigate it alone.
Located in Argyle, TX, our team at Harvest Counseling and Wellness is here to support your family. Whether you’re noticing mood changes, school stress, or persistent behavior struggles, we offer compassionate care rooted in child development. Reach out today to learn more or schedule a consultation.
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Harvest Counseling & Wellness is a Mental Health Counseling & Wellness Practice in Argyle, Texas. Our team includes several licensed therapists who specialize in child, teen and adolescent therapy. We provide support and counseling for children, preteens, teens, and families struggling with issues related to eating disorders, disordered eating, anxiety, depression, self-harm, school related issues, divorce and separation issues, and more. Our office is located near Denton, Highland Village, Flower Mound, Lantana, Roanoke, and Justin. If you are looking for a child, teen and adolescent therapist in Denton or surrounding areas, contact us today for a complimentary phone consultation, 940-294-7061.
